Respond to any situation with love
I want leaders who can respond to any situation and any person with love. And I want to show people the way. For years, I have wanted to build a martial art to train me and others in this, as if it were created by Martin Luther King, Jr., and Bruce Lee. This is my (ever-developing) attempt to do so.
By training with Jim Kleiber
Ten years ago, I left a well-paying job in Fortune 500 consulting because I felt confident that one of the most important skills was the ability to say how we feel. I still feel confident about this. Over these years, I have built various tools for feelings, including iFeelio (emotional journaling app) and Emotional Self-Defense (in-person workshop I’ve run in the US, Europe, and Africa), while using them to improve my own skills. Emōkō is the latest and most intense iteration I’ve been building to help me (and you) better connect with any human on the planet.
Using short audio drills
Short audio drills allow us to practice communicating how we feel across a wide variety of contexts. As I like to say, while they may be simple, that doesn’t mean they’re easy. They can help us reflect on a variety of emotions (e.g., anger, joy, confusion), regarding a variety of people, and across a variety of contexts—in a quick, private, and asynchronous way.
Such as the ones below
Just as I believe it’s hard to learn certain skills by reading, I believe it may be hard to understand the impact of these drills without trying them. I’ve included a demo playlist below with the introduction/sample drills for the different types of drills currently on the platform. Once you sign up, you will have access to all the drills (over 100 unique drills, with more each week), a way to search/sort/filter the drills, playlists by me, and even a tool to create custom playlists.
And custom personal drills
If you sign up for the 1-on-1 plan, you’ll also be able to suggest the topics/formats for up to 60 minutes per month of audio drills that I’ll record personally for you. In this way, I can ask questions very specific to your situation or include personalized names instead of using “this person” language.
(And even 1-on-1 training sessions)
If you sign up for the 1-on-1 plan, you’ll have access to one 60-minute call per month with me, where we can do drills live, talk more informally, or anything else related to your work with emotional leadership.
And joining others on the forum
While we can learn a lot by ourselves, sometimes we can learn a lot with others (and also have more fun). I’ve created the emōkō HQ forum in order to have a place where: 1) I can iterate on the theory/principles/drills more quickly than on the main site and 2) we can reflect as a group on how the drills impacted us. By signing up for the group or 1-on-1 plan, you’ll get access to the forum, where you can join these group reflections, meet new people, and overall explore this work together.
What others (might) have said
Jim, you need to slow down, this is advanced ninja sh*t.
Jim, your workshop, it f*cked my feelings, but they needed it—thank you.
Four score and seven audios ago.
Where you sign up
- Access all 165 unique audio drills (50 two-minute, 29 five-minute, and 20 ten-minute ones), which is over 7 hours of drills, with more being added each week.
Everything in SOLO, plus...
- Access the emōkō HQ Forum, to learn with others through group reflection on the drills and more.
Everything in GROUP, plus...
- Receive up to 60 mins/month of custom personalized drills (any combination of 2-min, 5-min, and 10-min drills)
- Participate in one 60-min 1-on-1 call with Jim per month, which can be as structured or unstructured as you'd like.
*Hellō is a universal login platform that will create an account on this site or log you in if you already have one
And where I answer some questions
What types of topics do the drills cover?
As of now, the drills cover a wide range of topics, from work to romance to politics to physical health. Over time, I hope to add even more topics, and if you sign up for the group or 1-on-1 plans, you can suggest up to 30 minutes per month of community drills for me to create, including the theme or format.
How intense are the drills?
While listening to them, you may feel very intensely. You may feel not so intensely. It depends on the drill, your background, your current situation, and more. However, overall, I want to make drills that challenge my limits and yours, pushing us to the edge so that we can prepare ourselves for the intensity we may face in positions of leadership. When running ESD classes, I’ve had people say, “Jim, you need to slow down, this is advanced ninja sh*t” and “your workshop, it f*cked my feelings, but they needed it.” Emōkō is primarily where I’m training myself to be the best world leader that I can be, so I want the drills to be intense.
How do I know I’m ready for these drills?
You may never fully know. Or you may feel ready now and then not feel ready later and then feel ready again. What I’d say overall is that if you feel excited to try the drills, then you are ready to start and that if, at any point, you no longer feel ready or excited to do them, it’s OK for you to stop. It’s about finding our limits and challenging them, not ignoring them and blowing past them.
When do you recommend that I *don’t* do these drills?
It’s hard for me to say. I feel confident saying that you may not want to do these drills if you are not wanting to feel things in general or to maybe feel them intensely. If you want to stay more emotionally closed, for whichever reason, first, it’s OK, and second, I’d suggest you probably don’t do the drills at the moment, as their main goal is to help you open up emotionally to yourself and to others.
How should I prepare for these drills?
I’d say one of the best ways to prepare is to just start and practice. Another might be to make sure you’re in a location where you can focus on the drills, as they may require a lot of attention. For example, I wouldn’t suggest starting to listen them while driving a car or some other activity that requires such focus.
How will these drills help me in my life?
They can help in many ways. Some can help you induce a specific emotional state, others can help you deepen your awareness of how you’re feeling about a specific topic, others can help you get better at articulating how you feel to yourself and then to others. You can also do these exercises with another person and they can act as an ice breaker, helping you start a conversation.
Why is the price so high?
Because I want people to realize that some of these drills can be very intense. Also, I believe these prices are quite low for leadership training. Also, I feel worried about having too many people on the platform, as it’s new, and want to use price as a way to limit the initial interest.